Rooted in Change
Counseling
Threshold moments
Counseling is for moments when something in life no longer fits, when familiar ways of being, relating, or deciding start to feel tight, confusing, or exhausting. These moments are often thresholds: times of transition, loss, questioning, inner reorientation, or a quiet knowing that a next step is asking to be taken, even if it is not yet clear what that step is.
My counseling work offers a safe and attentive space to slow down, to listen more closely to what is happening within you, and to explore what may want to emerge. There is no need to fix or resolve things too quickly. Sometimes, a pause is already a movement.
A Relational and Non-Hierarchical Approach
I work in a relational and non-hierarchical way, grounded in the belief that each person carries their own intelligence, agency and direction. Counseling with me is not about diagnosis, labels, or predefined trajectories, but about strengthening autonomy while staying connected — to yourself, to others, and to the wider context of your life.
For me, autonomy does not mean having to do everything alone. It means being able to remain yourself within relationship: to love without abandoning yourself, to belong without disappearing, and to make choices that feel genuinely your own. Supportive relationships and communities can make this autonomy stronger, especially when we know that others have our back.
We look together at patterns, emotions, bodily signals, relationships and stories that shape how you move through the world, always with respect for your pace and boundaries. I bring my experience, perspective and questions, while your life remains yours.
Inner and Outer Landscapes
Sometimes counseling stands on its own as a dedicated space for personal reflection and integration. At other times, it accompanies more practical or collective processes. Inner and outer landscapes are not separate; what is lived internally is often connected with what is unfolding in relationships, work, community, or place.
I am interested in how we create a good life even when the world around us does not always support the way we want to live. This may include exploring identity, intimacy, relationships, non-monogamy, belonging, community, work, transitions, or the courage to create a life outside familiar templates.
My own experience has taught me that resilience is not becoming untouched by life. It is learning that we can be deeply affected and still find our way back to ourselves. Pausing, sensing, responding, learning and beginning again can become a way of living — leaving space not only for conscious choices, but also for something new to emerge.
For Whom This Work Is Suited
This work is especially suited for queer and trans people, people exploring polyamory or consensual non-monogamy, and people creating chosen families, alternative forms of community, or lives outside conventional templates. It may also be for anyone who feels that the life they have inherited no longer quite fits, and wants to explore what greater autonomy and connection could look like.
You may be looking for depth without drama, clarity without simplification, and guidance without being told who to be. Counseling here is an invitation to come closer to yourself in an honest, embodied, and humane way — and to let that closeness inform how you live and relate in the world.
A Transparant Financial Exchange
I want money to be part of the conversation rather than something hidden behind the work. My standard contribution is €150 per one-hour session, with a sliding scale from €100–150 according to your financial possibilities.
If you have very limited or no financial resources, please contact me anyway. Part of the exchange I create through my work is making space for people who could otherwise not afford it.
My intention is that people with more financial freedom can contribute more, making it possible for others to contribute less or, when necessary, nothing. Counseling is an investment in the life you are creating — and I bring more than 35 years of lived experience, reflection, experimentation and learning to that exchange.
Our first session is free. It is an opportunity to get to know each other and see whether there is a mutual basis of trust. In many cases, eight sessions are enough to help you move further, although this depends entirely on your situation and wishes.
An Invitation
If something in these words resonates with you, you are welcome to reach out and explore whether this way of working feels right for you. There is no need to know exactly what you need before we begin. Sometimes the first step is simply making enough space to discover what wants to emerge.
